So I met someone.

Except for your knees. I'm pretty convinced age is like an odometer for the knees.....

 

I believe there is more truth to that than we actually realize. Now, both sides have to understand that there are some realities to this that need to be recognized and addressed. The main one is the older one, if all goes normal, will meet their maker first, long before the younger one even gets in the zone. So, the older one must prepare to leave and the younger must prepare to be on their own. Death is a certainty (like taxes! LOL!). So, there is some responsibilities on both sides that must be faced and addressed by both. It is what it is. This should be seen and recognized and addressed in all serious relationships, right; however, it is more so in one of this type and can't be ignored...maybe that's good. Obviously, this might turn out different but who can say? Certainly not you or me. The main thing is happiness. It's the bottom line and not something to be ignored in life. Some people are just made to be together; they work well together. Soul mates? Maybe. I never really wasted time thinking about it...

 

My friend, just take the advice of the band "the Eagles", and take it easy. I've seen it work out fine. I've seen it work out where the widow and widower end up good friends and social companions, and nothing more. Whatever it works out to be, just make sure you're both HAPPY. Because that's what's important, right?
Wouldn't worry too much about the age difference, either. I'm turning 62 this summer, and my GF turned 55 last month. And while what Bandit99 said is usually true, with her medical difficulties, it's 50/50 which one of us goes first. We make the most of what we have, and try our best to work around the weird stuff that life throws us.

 

Well Said @natshare

 

I'm so happy for you! It's nice that you have so much in common and it sounds like you've set good boundaries around your lost loved ones.
Granny grabber made me laugh.
I love that whole thing that says something like: "forget your age and live."
Of course there are caveats and risks and distance can be challenging, but not impossible to overcome. It sounds like you get along and communicate well. That's what matters. There's so much value in good conversation.
You're both grown people.
Take care and protect your heart.

 

Wishing you all the best.

 

My wife and I don't think I would stay alone long either. That was an odd conversation.

 

The age doesn't bother me even a little bit. The big challenge is I have my dream place and she has her place. I can't leave my place just can't. She has expressed that she might leave her place to come here but that she would not sell it. I would not expect her to sell it and made that clear. Gotta admit I have built a very sweet set up here over the 16 years since relocating the farm to here and despite being in IL there are only 3-4 counties out of what 102 that are liberal blue and the farther South you go the deeper Red the political environment gets.

It was a odd chain of events that led us to even meet each other so we are just rolling with maybe it was meant to be and rolling with it as it evolves. And we probably should spend a few less hours with each other on the phone every day LOL.

 

In sone cases I think that people coming from similar marital experiences may have some of the rough edges worn off.
Tolerance, not necessarily compatibility.
You may like the same music, but she may play music through the night to sleep and you may need utter silence.

 

Yep and those individual quirks are things yet to be learned LOL Like my snoring and sounding like a big chainsaw bogged down in a log.

 

I'm happy for you! Sounds like you are looking out for yourself. Enjoy life, it's too short not to!