Mrs Krap is probably not going to make it.

Prayers going out for you. It is of little use for you peace of mind, but at least her pain will be over and we all look forward to meeting again in the next stage in our journey.

 

I am very sorry to hear of this negative turn of events for the Mrs. My prayers are for God's grace upon you both and that His will be done for the both of you.

 

I’m very sorry to hear this.

 

Sorry to hear this. I will keep you both in my prayers.

whynot

 

I lost my wife a little over a year ago. She was 51. It sucks. My prayers will be with you for the difficult days ahead, either way.

 

Sorry does not sum it up well enough but I am, for you both.

 

Almost midnight and the Surgeon calls to tell me DeeAnn went into renal failure and at the same time had a massive build of fluid in her lungs. The only thing keeping her alive now is the BP IV Meds and the Breathing tube. Dee and I discussed this very situation early on after the cancer diagnosis and she gave me my orders should it arise. The Surgeon wants to administer the Compassionate End of Life Care himself, he says she is his patient and it is his responsibility. I will be standing by her side holding her hand until her spirit leaves and goes to a better place with no worries and no pain. So at 830 tomorrow morning the love of my life and best friend will leave and it will just be me and the dogs. It sucks and it hurts bad, but I am not going to let her linger for 2-3 days waiting for the fluid build up in the lungs to drown her or the toxin build of from the renal failure kill her.

 

My thoughts go with you both, and my utmost respect for the courage that you have both been, and are now showing, from the beginning of your journey together until it's Earthly finality.

 

Kamp words can't describe how my heart goes out to you. This is something I guess we all may face in life, may god give you the strength to endure the pain of loosing your life partner. You and DeeAnn are in my prayers if it is any comfort you will meet again in a better place. So sorry to hear this

 

So very sorry for the both of you. You are a good and brave man to stand by her side through all of this, but what else could you do for the woman you love.

 

My deepest sympathies and prayers for you and your loved ones.

She goes to a better place, pain free and full of love. She will watch over you now and she will be the first thing you see when you make that journey.

 

Dang it big guy, I go off in the sticks for 2 days and come back to read about the Mrs.'s having a looks to be tough and final go.
It pains my heart to read this thread, You have our deepest sympathies man.

 

I am lost for words. You are honouring her wishes as you have honoured each other for these many years together. When the pain passes your memories must be of the wonderful times. My thought are with you.

 

Knee Mail Uploaded KK, so sorry to hear of this, FUCK CANCER!
We lost Mom, not from the Chemo, but the after effects!

 

I am back home and the miracle I had hoped for did not happen. The Miracle that I needed DID happen. About a hour after I arrived at the hospital she woke up, not the groggy doped up awake but eyes wide open and fully lucid awake. She could respond and communicate with head nods and shakes and hand squeezes. I love the critical care Doctor that has been a rock for me through this. Her waking up and have a surge of energy I guess set alarms off at the nurse station and he came to investigate. Seeing her eyes open and arms moving he rushed over to me and gave me a huge hug and said "Thank GOD FOR THIS!" He is a very kind, compassionate and very empathetic man. I asked him to explain her situation to her and he did a remarkable job of laying it all out there more gently than I ever could have. When he was done I asked her if she wanted to keep fighting this? She shook her head no. I asked her if she was ready to let go and move on to a better place with no pain, no worries and peace? She nodded her head yes. I told her to squeeze my hand hard when she was ready to let go and move on.

We had 90 good minutes together with her still on the life support. She could not talk because of the breathing tube but I talked enough for the both of us. I had the chance to tell her everything that I didn't think I said enough over the last 24 years. Her eyes, nods and hugs communicated everything she was thinking and feeling. A bond like ours for so many years words are not needed for communicating. Her pain during that 90 minutes was intense in random burst and she finally could take no more and gave my hand the hardest squeeze I have ever felt. I called the Doctor back and he came with a nurse and they turned the life support off and pulled the breathing tube and left the room.

The next 7 minutes were the most important 7 minutes of my life. She could whisper a few words. I held her and we just stared into each others eyes until the end. With her last few breaths she whispered Thank You Love you and closed her eyes and passed over to the Spirit World at 10:50AM. Her main nurse had came in with a paper for me to sign and stopped short of coming past the curtain and heard our last moments together. She came over when it was done, tears streaming down her face, handed me the paper and pen and said please sign that and I will be right back. She later said what she witnessed is stuff you see on TV not in the real world ICU.

As Dee's Spirit left for a better place a great feeling of calm and peace washed over me and everything felt right if not pleasant. I sat with her for another hour and then left the shell that had carried her spirit through life. She wants her remains to be cremated and buried beside her dogs that have moved on. In my time I will be buried beside her with my dogs that have moved on. Then we will walk the spirit world hand in hand with all of our dogs beside us. I wish that everyone could know the bond of two really becoming one and the joy of everything between us coming straight from the heart. There would not be any divorces and very few arguments......... The pain of losing half of yourself on the other hand is nearly unbearable, I know in time it will become tolerable and the pain will eventually fade to happy memories. But right now it is a open throbbing wound in my heart that only the medicine of time can ease. Today has been the hardest day of my life, hell combine everything before together and today dwarfs it all combined.

My advice is that if you truly love someone, cherish every moment of that time like it will be the last moment.

 

I am so glad that you both had the opportunity for loving communication between yourself and DeeAnn, before she passed. I think its importance to Dee was what made her last surge of lucidity imperative, and possible. 24 years together, with mutual love: You were both very fortunate to have that....I would feel very fortunate to have that.

 

So sorry to hear of this ,, I'm not gonna lie , reading about her last moments brought tears to my eyes .
I'm happy you both had those last moments,, I think it may have helped you both .
My prayers and condolences go out for you . She is definitely in a better place than we are ,, and she will be walking with you as you finish the dreams you both shared for your homestead .
So sorry to hear this KK ,,,

 

Can’t say much, having trouble seeing the keyboard. You are in our prayers.

AT

 

So sorry for your loss. So very precious to have that last few moments together and for that you were blessed. My wife and I are on our 50 year anniversary adventure right now. I don't know if I could stand the loss of her. It will be hard but life will go on. I'm sure she would want you to have some happiness after she moved to a better place. May you find some peace and joy in the future.