never mind I've got plenty of time to think about it now. The flooding has seriously disrupted rail traffic along the missisippi. One thought i've had though is that nobody's children say my dad was great,he worked all the time! nOnce again thanks for the input.
I have seen people say "my dad was a worthless git who never held down a steady job." In fact, I have said similar, myself. Balance in all things. Take care of the basics first. Hierarchy of needs- make sure your kids are fed and sheltered before you go chasing after "self actualization."
I have always been able to find a cheaper way of doing something but I have yet to find a way to make more time. BWM