HOLD THE BUSS !! Just go slow as friends , your on the rebound train !! Give it some time , and get to the range , BUILD ONE FOR YOU !! No Disrespect Sir Sloth
Nope not on the rebound at all. And I have always gone slow in relationships because almost never does instant gratification and meaningful long term relationship work out . LOL 5 years after my grandma passed away people were still telling Grandpa the same thing you just told me I know me and I am a master at stepping back and looking at myself objectively and being more harshly critical of my self and where I am at than anyone else could even come close to. I am not lonely, I am not desperate, I don't need a free ride, I don't need emotional support pet woman, I am not trying to replace Dee and if I just wanted sex well I have plenty of female friends that have indicated they would be happy to help me out there but that ain't my style and I can be a monk just fine in that regard. Not like I am 15 and have to rub one off 5-10 times per day LOL. She is the same as me in these things and a lot more. It may or may not evolve into her saying "Oh Krappy DO IT AGAIN!" If I was rebounding I would be running around humping every female leg I saw until I found one that didn't kick me off. Again I am a bit more moral and ethical than that. And I think you might have missed the part that we are going slow and letting it grow and enjoying the friendship and its evolution. In time The Farrowing house might not have scared her off, but I don't want to push to far into crazy just yet LMAO. I have directed more than a few of the Ladies I have became friends with to Da Monkey of late since it is a homestead/prepper/offgrid Singles Group there is a high level of interest in the Monkey Stuff and well we have one of the best resources repositories around.
500 miles isn't that bad - especially if you have fairly free room & board on both ends of travel >>> what you two have going is some commonality in the areas you live - not a lot of clime, geography or demographic differences - not like a Upper Midwesterner moving to CA or the Eastern Seaboard ..... you already know - at least should know - don't have her abandon her home for your IL digs - get the f___k out of IL if anyone has to move ..... as far as you two getting together - any chance of months long cohabitating before making such drastic changes in your lives - people can be on good behavior for weeks on end - tough to keep up that fake facade for months - signs will creep out .....
Funny you mentioned that,, I've actually got a buddy that did exactly that ,, been meaning to ride down and check it out . He's somewhere at the bottom of GA.
I don't know, sounds good to me! In truth, only you can say if it is time or not but Dee had to be a very good person with a lot of common sense and a ton of patience to put up with you so I would take her words to heart. There is nothing wrong with finding companionship in this world. Are you risking something? I think not, not if you keep your eyes open and understand that neither she nor you know much about each other. At this point, you are still in the get to know each other phase so...so why not? Seems a no-brainer to me. Anyway, life's too damn short to always want perfection...besides, you'll waste your life looking for it and some things just don't matter much, like age. What matters are the people involved, how they think, their personality, their life's experience and expectations. The BIGGEST thing is if they make you happy. Remember that old saying, 'people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime.' KK, I've been married 20 years to a woman that is 20 years younger than me, born and raised in a totally different culture (Soviet Union), even spoke a different language and these 20 years have been the only years I have ever been happy and fulfilled in my entire life. I know that now. Do not be too timid to reach for happiness again. At our age, 'moderation is for monks! In order to enjoy life, take big bites!'
Yes, a lot of truth. Let's put it this way, you couldn't pay me enough to marry an American or West European woman again. The Poles and those from the Baltic countries would be okay. No, real Russians (born and raised in Russia, yes, they are different) and I think I would stay away from the Ukrainians too. Just my opinion, but life is just too damn short but to each their own.
There is just nothing to lose here she wants nothing and I want nothing beyond companionship. We really are very much equal to each other in every way other than I have outy and she has a inny..... Hey you gotta ask now days LOL. The age difference bothers her a lot more than it does me..... which is not at all. Not like either of us are interested in settling down and starting a family and having kids LOL. Nope too much invested here in terms of Blood and Sweat to make my perfect place. I just don't have it in me to start over again somewhere else.
Same here KK , I was just making sure you were not getting setup for any Hurt. I read on the redneck twitter here about Dee and I knew I couldn't handle reading it on the post. So I kinda know the heart hurt. Sloth GO FORTH and smile & enjoy . (wow 55) Would like to see that # again .